Web Links & Bibliography

About Divorce

  • Briles, Judith, Schilling, Edwin C. and Wilson, Carol Ann, The Dollars and Sense of Divorce (1998, Kaplan Education)
  • Fagerstrom, Karen, Ph.D., Thompson, Peggy, Ph.D., and Nurse, A Rodney, Ph.D. Divorce: A Problem to be Solved, Not a Battle to be Fought ABPP
  • Hertz, Frederick, Essential Advice for Same-Sex Couples (1998, Henry Holt)
  • Magnuson, David, Divorce for Grownups A Comprehensive Guide to Divorce in California (2010, Shipwright Press)
  • Sember, Brette McWhorter, The Complete Gay Divorce (2005, Career Press)
  • San Francisco Superior Court
  • San Francisco Family Court Services
  • www.colage.org (for LGBTQ families)

About Process Options

About Children and Co-Parenting

  • Ahrons, Constance R., The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart (1994, HarperCollins)
  • Baris, Mitchell and Garrity, Carla, Children of Divorce: A Developmental Approach to Residence and Visitation (1988, Psytec Corporation);
  • Baris, Mitchell and Garrity, Carla Caught in the Middle: Protecting the Children of High Conflict Divorce (1997, Lexington Books)
  • Berman, Claire, Making it as a Stepparent, New Roles/New Rules (1986, Harper Collins)
  • Blau, Melinda, Families Apart: Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting (1995, Perige)
  • Delzer, Carol, 8 Weeks to Collaborative Co-Parenting for Divorcing Parents (2009, self-published)
  • Gardner, Richard A., M.D., The Parents’ Book About Divorce (1977, Doubleday)
  • Hannibal, Mary Ellen Good Parenting Through Your Divorce (2002, Marlowe and Company)
  • Ricci, Isolina, Ph.D., Mom’s House, Dad’s House (1980, Macmillan)
  • Riera, Michael, Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers (1995, Celestial Arts)
  • Thomas, Shirley, Parents are Forever: A Step-By-Step Guide to Becoming Successful Parents After Divorce (1995, Springboard Publications)
  • Kids Turn
  • Parents Place
  • Infant Parent Program
  • Talk About It
  • Our Family Wizard

About Communication

  • Ellison, Sharon, Taking the War Out of Our Words (2009, Bay Tree Publishing)
  • Faber A., and E. Mazlish, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, (1980, Avon)
  • Rosenberg, Marshall, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 2nd Ed (2003, Puddledancer Press)
  • Schulz, Kathryn, Being Wrong: Adventures in the Margin of Error (2010, HarperCollins)
  • Stone, Douglas; Patton, Bruce; Heen, Sheila (Harvard Negotiation Project) Difficult Conversations, How to Discuss What Matters Most (1999, Viking Press)
  • Tannen, Deborah, The Culture: Moving From Debate to Dialogue (1998, House)
  • You Don’t Understand (1991, Ballentine Books)

About Negotiation

  • Fisher, Roger and Shapiro, Daniel, Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate (2006, Viking Penguin)
  • Fisher, Roger, Ury, William, and Patton, Bruce Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In (1991, Penguin)
  • Mnookin, Robert, Beyond Winning (2000, Harvard University Press)
  • Mnookin, Robert, Bargaining with the Devil (2010, Simon & Schuster)
  • Ury, William L., Jeanne M., and Goldberg, Stephen B., Getting Resolved, Designing Systems to Cut the Costs of Conflict (1988)
  • Ury, William L., Getting Past No, Negotiating Your Way From Confrontation to Cooperation (1993, Bantam, Doubleday Dell Putnam)

Books for Children

5 to 6 year olds:

  • Best, Cari, Taxi! Taxi!
  • Brown, Laurene Krasny and Brown, Marc, Dinosaurs Divorce
  • Lansky, Vicki, It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear
  • Willhoite, Michael, Daddy’s Roommate (for LGBTQ families)

7 to 9 year olds:

  • Cleary, Beverly, Dear Mr. Henshaw
  • Jong, Erica, Megan’s Two Houses
  • Newman, Leslea and Hegel, Annette, Saturday is Pattyday (for LGBTQ families)
  • Ricci, Isolina, Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: How to Feel at Home in One Home or Two

10 to 14 year olds:

  • Blume, Judy, It’s Not the End of the World
  • Voight, Cynthia, Bad, Badder, Baddest

For Adolescents

  • Krementz, Jill, How it Feels When Parents Divorce
  • Voight, Cynthia, Solitary Blue
  • Garner, Abigal, Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell it Like It Is